The importance of knowing when to say yes and no

University is a time of exploration, growth and self-discovery. It can be challenging to step out of your comfort zone and try new experiences, but doing so can lead to significant personal growth. When you find yourself in unfamiliar territory, it’s a sign that you’re learning and evolving. Sticking to the status quo might feel safe, but it can also restrict creativity and prevent you from discovering new aspects of yourself. Saying yes to opportunities, even when you’re unsure, opens doors to new possibilities, helping you realize your true potential.

Embracing opportunities

Taking advantage of opportunities as they present themselves is crucial, especially when you’re just starting out in a new environment. It’s natural to feel fearful or unsure, but there’s no way of knowing what you’re capable of unless you try. By stepping out of your comfort zone, you not only challenge yourself, but also put your name and face out there. This is essential for making connections and networking, which are invaluable in both your academic and professional life. The key is to be open to experiences, even if they seem daunting at first.

The power of saying no

While it’s important to embrace new experiences, it’s equally important to know when to say no. Not every opportunity is right for you, and learning to distinguish between them is a crucial skill. Understanding your limitations and recognizing when something is too much helps maintain balance. Pushing yourself is important, but not to the point of burnout. It’s vital to be mindful of your time, other responsibilities and overall well-being. Overcommitting can lead to stress and a decline in the quality of your work. Saying no doesn’t mean you’re missing out; it means you’re prioritizing what truly matters.

Prioritizing your responsibilities

As a university student, your primary focus should always be on your studies. It’s easy to get caught up in extracurricular activities, projects and social events, but remember why you’re here in the first place. Your academic work should remain at the forefront of your priorities. That said, balance is key. Engage in activities that enrich your university experience, but ensure they don’t overshadow your academic goals. By saying no to certain commitments, you’re preserving your energy and focus for what truly matters. This doesn’t mean avoiding all non-academic activities, but choose them wisely to complement your studies.

Recognizing safe and beneficial opportunities

It’s also important to be discerning about the opportunities you pursue. Not every opportunity is beneficial or safe. The campus environment is a great place to start, as it offers numerous chances for personal and professional growth within a safe and supportive community. Whether it’s joining a club, attending a workshop or volunteering, campus activities are designed to help you grow while ensuring your safety and well-being. When considering off-campus opportunities, take the time to evaluate their potential risks and benefits. Always prioritize your safety and choose activities that align with your goals and values.

A few places to start


There are some great resources at VIU that can help you take the first steps. The Career Studio is one of them. They help with job searches, resume building and anything career-related. If you’re looking for volunteer or work opportunities that align with your goals, this is the perfect place to go for advice.

For those looking to meet people and get involved with events, the Fun@VIU team organizes lots of student events, and they’re always looking for help.

Another tip is to approach your professors after class and ask if they know of any opportunities related to your field of study or interests. While they might not have immediate answers, they’ll remember you and could connect you with future opportunities.

Finally, the Office of Co-Curricular Engagement and Learning is an excellent resource for personal growth and leadership development. They run programs and courses throughout the year that you can add to your Co-Curricular Record, a non-academic transcript that tracks your involvement. You can also download the Student Engagement App, which helps you keep track of upcoming events and connect with peers and faculty.

Knowing when to say yes and when to say no is a crucial skill for university students. Embrace the discomfort of stepping out of your comfort zone, as it leads to growth and new opportunities. However, be mindful of your limits and prioritize your responsibilities, ensuring that you don’t overwhelm yourself. By careful choosing which opportunities to pursue, you can make the most of your university experience while maintaining balance and well-being. Remember, every yes and no shapes your journey so make sure they’re leading you in the direction you want to go.

Becky Duarte is a second-year Bachelor of Arts student majoring in Digital Media Studies. She moved to Canada in January 2023 for the experience of studying abroad and living life outside India. She enjoys travelling, watching movies and playing board games.